Coaching for Experiencers
I have been offering one to one sessions with people experiencing extreme emotional and mental states for the past five years.
Until 2020, my preferred method was to work with Sei Ki Bodywork (similar perhaps to body psychotherapy), alongside 'conversation' work, but since then I have discovered how effectively I can work online through a combination of conversation, energetic resonance and shared practices.
I love it because I can see how much benefit people get from our exchanges.
As I shared more and more of these conversations, what I found was that there were several areas in which they seemed helpful:
Normalising the experiences so people don't feel alone in them.
I know exactly what it feels like to be in a non-ordinary state that does not end.
The world 'outside' interacting with my mind like we are 'one', almost cartoon like.
With no sense of whether I am alive or dead or in another universe.
With emotions spiking into extreme panic attacks, paranoia rising naturally in response to the behaviour of others, revelations pouring into my mind as if I am talking with God, 'extra' objects and beings manifesting around me, voices both friendly and unfriendly appearing in my mind, helping me or suggesting I kill myself.
This is all normalised for me, and over a ten year period I got used to facing it and not going into fear too much. When you have walked the territory enough times, you can navigate it without too much fuss for oneself or others.
One friend / client (after a one hour conversation like this - we feel like friends!), was sectioned immediately after an experience similar to this, because he was afraid of the state, but with increased knowledge he might have been able to hold the experience and come back from it.
Another person tried to commit suicide and entered the psychiatric system because of the 'cartoon' state - but after a short conversation where we affirmed that she wasn't mad and that it was a natural human experience, she was able to look at it differently and consider whether she needs to train as a clairvoyant or at least learn to relax when it happens to her.
As she experienced herself, you cannot 'helpfully' discuss this with 'most' people as they just say you are mad! They go into fear.
Sharing my self-acceptance of who I am, which is contagious.
If you can't accept yourself, you judge yourself and you are likely ashamed of 'who you are' and this puts you at war with yourself, creating serious difficulty inside. I have had to deal with relating to the 'dark side of God' within me. When you can love the 'dark' as well as the 'light', things get a lot easier.
I have also had to deal with 'being a failure' and having a 'wasted life'. It is actually nonsense and just a mental judgement but it doesn't seem like that when you are experiencing it. Everyone around you tends to think it's a wasted life as well. And this can cause terrible suffering. I nearly commited suicide partly because of this, partly because of my medication.
Sharing my cognitive understanding of the experiences and how to navigate them safely.
When you grow up in a normal family and go to school you learn how to relate to the world around you. Unfortunately the current understanding of the universe shared in most families and schools does not prepare you for encounters with the unconscious or non-ordinary states and if this is your regular experience, there is much to learn.
Sharing my enthusiasm and enjoyment of life, giving hope to people.
I am a happy person. Life will still have its ups and downs and many things may not be as I might have dreamt them, but the basic life is good, 'NOW'! (even with the Covid-19).
Just experiencing someone who has been through similar situations to yourself, come through them, and recovered offers more conviction than anything else that you yourself will get through. In my experience medical professionals tell you the opposite, that you will not get through and will need medication for the rest of your life.
I can go on... there are many things we can share including energy practices I use to balance my emotional state.
My Way of Working
My way of working with people is to arrange a single introductory coaching session to allow us to get to know each other, clear up any confusions about what is going on, and be clear on 'health & safety' aspects before encouraging you to start your journey of recovery.
I will then encourage you to join the weekly Hara Conditioning support classes and to practise daily. For regular students, I will be open to small amounts of communication by text msg outside of classes if necessary. What is important is that you don't feel alone in your process.
Any subsequent coaching sessions will be because 1) There is a crisis to resolve 2) Questions have come up which need further support. I am not encouraging regular coaching.
I believe this can be both a therapeutically effective and cost effective way for me to support you in your journey towards recovery.
In time, I will also restart my in-person weekend based workshops which will provide further support.
Wellness Coaching: I am offering 'wellness / life coaching' sessions as an 'expert by experience'. I am not a regulated psychotherapist or counsellor. I have professional training and up to date insurance to work with individuals as a Mindfulness teacher, a Bodywork therapist and as a Tai Chi teacher.
This is a legal disclaimer: What you take from a session and put into action in your life is your personal responsibility. By engaging my services, I will assume you understand and accept this.
Personal Responsibility: I expect individuals to take responsibility for themselves. I cannot take this on myself, though I will support people as best I can. If the individual cannot do this then family members need to take responsibility. If there is a situation in which no one is able to take responsibility, then sadly this is where the mental health services play an important role in our society.
Psychiatry: In my experience the psychiatric profession plays an important health and safety role for the society. I must acknowledge that for some people the use of some form of anti-psychotic medication may be appropriate despite the side-effects. When something better is available the treatments should be updated.
But I also believe that there are individuals with more sensitivity who could be helped in other more gentle ways and right now these options are not available to them. Treatment with anti-psychotic medications may prevent them from living out their full potential in life and this is very, very sad. Most people will prefer to look away unless it is their own life being ruined or that of someone they love but this cannot be ignored and needs to change in our society and mental health systems.
So while the pharmacology path may be the only option for some people, as a kindly psychiatrist once told me, if you can find any other path, take it...
Dangers - I am not naive as to the dangers inherent in non-ordinary experiences, but am not afraid of them in the way perhaps the majority of humanity are, including psychiatric professionals. We will discuss this, and if in the end you need 24hr support (which I did the first time), then the options will include psychiatric care, hopefully for a short time.
Trauma & Suffering - In my experience, people experience mental health difficulties for a reason, not because of a random 'act of God'. Whether anyone wants to face the 'reason' is another matter. A benefit from having been 'cruxified' in my own journey is that I have a capacity to be with suffering in others. We may even be able to make light of it...
Practical Details & Fees
I would suggest people make an initial contact with me through this website.
We can then arrange a first paid session if you are clear you want to work with me.
I have found with Experiencer coaching that we need 1 1/2 hours for a first session, the fee is £75.
Any subsequent sessions will be £50 for 1 hour.
Coaching for Family members or Clinicians will be charged at £50 / hour. First sessions can be 1 hour.
For small groups, I will charge £30 / hour each for two people, £20 / hour each for three, £15 / hour each for four to ten people (open to discussion).
I charge £80 for Sei Ki Touch and coaching sessions combined in person usually lasting 1 1/2 hours.
Payment can be made by bank transfer or credit card via Paypal. I will send details. I request payment to be made before the agreed session.
Nb. I am not able to offer 'free' one to one sessions and I am well aware many interested people will be living on social benefits. Much of my activity in this field is unpaid or underpaid and this is where I choose to charge for my time. If we cannot meet in this way, please review the material I have already put online on my websites. I intend to create much more. Hopefully we will be able to meet in a group session in person sometime.
Anthony has made such a tremendous impact in my healing journey at many levels: spiritually, emotionally and even physically. I can say it strongly - he has been that bright light when I felt there is no way forward, after numerous traumatic events.
I am hugely impressed by his unique ability to share his own experience, extensive knowledge within the field of healing, various practices and simply his energy.
My gratitude for Anthony's help goes beyond any limits; he showed me that life can be beautiful despite any state you are in.
I sincerely recommend to reach out to Anthony at your need.Jurga, Lithuania
In times when I felt really lost in life, I searched for help and found Anthony.
He guided me through his experience and made it easier for me to see, that there can also be light again in the end of the tunnel.
Furthermore, he gave me a greater understanding in what was going on.
Life taught me, through that period, that if we suppress too long what we feel, your body and mind might be forced to express it, in extremer ways like confusion, panic attacks, or even Depression...
I can absolutely recommend the work of Anthony, for everyone who is on a similar journey.Janosch, Germany
I greatly appreciated Anthony's coaching sessions as it gave me insight to someone who has gone through out of the ordinary experiences of consciousness and come out the other side.
So much of the current narrative in this area is pathological.
People tend to fear what they don't understand.
So it was relieving to talk to someone and share experience and address the spiritual space where growth is real and possible.
Highly recommend.Dan, Brazil
Thank you, Anthony, for helping me deal with my trauma and anxiety by not simply telling me what to do but showing me what to do.
Other people from whom I’ve sought help have talked with me about intellectual concepts and have offered advice such as “Focus on yourself”, “Don’t worry about things until they happen”.
Other mindfulness practices have been helpful to an extent but have very much focused on the mind.
You have been aware that much of my anxiety is stored in my body and exploring together physical techniques drawn from Tai Chi and QiGong, focusing on breathing and grounding and letting the body instinctively explore what it needs to calm itself, has been so useful and has tackled issues on a much deeper level.Joanne, UK
New: Spiritual Crisis Interventions
I am offering crisis intervention support:
- A 'Mental Health' Wellness Coaching Session: 1 1/2 hours
- 6 Hara Conditioning or Qi Gong Class Tickets
This is a minimum, but may be enough support to get you through the tricky patch. I expect you to invest time to practise what I share with you during the six weeks.
Open to people with any physical or mental health condition.
Pay the Coaching Session first: £75, and then the training fee before the first class: £90.
Embodied Mindfulness & Qi Gong
- Tuesdays: 7.15-8.30pm - Hara Conditioning
- Thursdays: 7.15-8.30pm - Tai Chi Qi Gong
Both classes have much to offer us to develop greater embodiment and enhanced physicality which serve us well when we need to strengthen our physical or mental health resilience.
Open to people with any physical or mental health condition.
Nb. I prefer people to sign up for at least one private session before joining the group class, so I am aware of your specific needs.
Class Fee £15 / session. £7.50 concessions. Maximum 5 people per class.